I needed a break. So I took a trip away from my trip to London to catch a few soccer matches, some plays, and see an old friend from the Camino. I also caught covid on the way back. Nonetheless, it gave me time to reflect on how it had gone so far. 

I am 6 months and two cities in. I was hoping for a quick resolution to my journey, fixing this blog’s reputation as not only silly but also exceedingly brief. 

Alas, failure is failure. But, it is also a learning opportunity, fun, and all part of the process. I am perfectly satisfied to be patient and keep on grinding. Along the way, I’m meeting many people, seeing more of the country, and pushing myself outside the usual comfort zone. 

Quality of Life: 

I initially imagined working most days at Coffee shops (despite my dislike of coffee) to be more social and connected to the area. In actuality, I have spent more time working at my Airbnb due to the convenience and the difficulty of remote meetings in a public place. However, I did come across a remote workers’ office in Raleigh where you can rent a desk next to other remote workers. I will look into this at my next stop. 

Where to meet people: 

I have done well setting up a weekly schedule where I regularly see my soccer teammates, volleyball teammates, improv class, and pickup ultimate frisbee. The routine helps me feel connected to a community. I also went to Notre Dame, FSU, and Arsenal game-watches for one-off events and met some cool people. I need to put more effort into non-sports-related activities in the next city. Sporty chicks are great, but I think it’s limiting my pool. There is a website called Meetup.com where groups of people with common interests will schedule events. I am considering joining a book club or a creative writing class. The key is doing things you enjoy regardless of whether you meet anyone. Going to a social event solely hoping to meet someone is dreadful. 

Meeting new people: 

What I simultaneously dreaded and looked forward to most was all the awkward social situations I encountered. Going to parties, the movie theater, sports, or wherever else by myself and not knowing a soul is irrationally daunting. Walking up to new people and striking up a conversation literally has no stakes. Half the time, it will be a good conversation and maybe a new friendship. The other half of the time goes nowhere. But who cares? There are no consequences to having a bad social interaction in a random city. I have gotten better at it, but it’s still draining, so I try to give myself some nights to relax. 

Standards: 

My standards have not changed. Regarding dating apps, the best strategy is to be very selective; otherwise, it’s a huge waste of time and emotional energy. In real life, I am open to hanging out with anyone who will make the time and is present. 

Mindset: 

Some people have interpreted my journey as a sign of desperation or trying too hard. People say, “You’ll only find her once you stop looking.” Statistically, that seems crazy to me, but I think there is an underlying point that you don’t want to press. Generally, I’m not very anxious and am pretty relaxed with most people I meet. I’d like to meet someone, but I’m perfectly fine being patient. 

Taking Peoples Advice:

People have strong opinions on my journey. I love hearing them! Sometimes, they change my mind or give me a new perspective. Often, they run counter to my values and experiences. Keep sharing your advice! Just don’t be offended if I don’t heed it.

Tiles from the British Museum from the middle ages that depicted Jesus as a prankster. I found them amusing. And below my friend and I at the Fulham match at Craven Cottage.